Staying in tune with your Spirituality means staying aligned with love and being willing to manifest a connection through your behaviour. The emotion that is most likely to pull you away from an inner experience of love is fear. Fear is the absence of trust.

“Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.”

James Thurber

Few of us truly understand the number of masks and disguises that fear wears in our lives. Fear of losing control. Fear of failure. Fear that we are not good enough.

Fear based emotions disconnect you from your Spirituality. They include anger, frustration, sadness, insecurity, grief, jealousy and greed. The manifestation of fear is distinct and can involve yelling, sarcasm and shutting down.

Love-based responses are easy to identify – kindness, compassion, happiness and gratitude. Fear-based emotions are not as easy to explain. Anger, jealousy, frustration and greed all have their roots in fear.

Think about the last time something made you angry. Ask yourself “What was I afraid of when I reacted with anger?” Some common fears are loss of control, fear of appearing incompetent, fear of getting too close to another person or fear of intimacy.

Often the question arises as to why we would feel anger or frustration instead of fear if fear is the true source of the feeling. We live in a culture that gives the message that fear equals weakness. We learn very early in life to transform fear into a more acceptable feeling such as anger, frustration or sadness. In an attempt to appear strong and in control we learn to hide the truth from ourselves as well as others. As long as we don’t know what is really going on inside ourselves we will be at the mercy of our emotional reactions rather than being in charge of our responses.

When we begin to be aware of our feelings and acknowledge them we give ourselves more options for our behaviour.

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